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Stop Bullying Now! If not you, who?"

The call to action words from the US Health Resource and Service Administration (HRSA). Our children deserve safe environments when in school, in sports settings, in child care centers and at home. Children deserve to be safe, and bullies deserve an opportunity to learn socially acceptable behavior so they have a chance to grow into happy satisfied productive adults.

 STOP BULLYING NOW!

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STOP BULLYING NOW! IF NOT YOU, WHO?
COUNTERING THE BULLYING CULTURE

by Dr. Carol Renaud Gaffney

As the toll of bullying has become better understood many State Legislatures are enacting laws to address bullying in our schools. Laws alone won’t make the difference – our actions will. This article is an introduction to Bullying and how to Counter the Bullying Culture.

"When the Secret Service, in the most comprehensive analysis of school shootings to date, finds that 71 percent of the perpetrators viewed their acts as retribution for bullying by their classmates, we had better take that seriously" Dr. R. Skiba, School Safety Expert, Director, Safe and Responsive Schools Project, Indiana University.

Did you know?

Everyday 160,000 U.S. children stay home from school because they are afraid of being bullied. (National Center for Educational Statistics)

Approximately 3.7 million youths engage in bullying, and more than 3.2 million are victims of moderate or serious bullying each year (NICHD study reported in Journal of the American Medical Association)

Bullying incidents increased by 5% between 1999 and 2001. (U.S. Dept of Ed., 2002)

Children with disabilities and special needs are at higher risk of being bullied. (bullies pick targets who are weaker, have less power, Rigby, 2002)

Targets of Bullying:
Exhibit lower self esteem
And are more likely to

  • Feel lonely
  • Depressed
  • Anxious
  • Have migraines and other psychosomatic symptoms
  • Think about suicide
(NICHD, JAMA, 1998)

What is Bullying?
Bullying is aggressive behavior that is intentional and that involves an imbalance of power or strength. Typically, it is repeated over time. A child who is being bullied has a hard time defending himself or herself.

(Health Resources & Services Administration, "Stop Bullying Now" campaign)

What are we doing about it?

If only educating people around bullying would make it go away our job would be easy. But behaviors such as bullying are complex in origin and require ongoing education, intervention and follow up.

Polaris Associates helps School Districts develop and implement programming that will effectively Counter the Bully Culture. We do this in a systematic way through helping districts create District and school policies that are in compliance with any existing State Law (17 states have laws related to bullying) and most importantly develop programs that focus on the development of pro-social behavior within the culture. Our three prong approach deters and counsel bullies, supports targets(the bullied) and activates and encourages bystanders to intervene.

Because we want programs that work and that target the school’s problems we conduct student surveys, determine the focus for intervention and then re-survey to determine effectiveness. All programs provide methods to respond to cries for help and how to report bullying. All personnel within a district are instructed in what bullying is and how to address it and parents are educated in bullying and how to respond. Students are educated about bullying and work together to learn more about themselves and each other and to learn appropriate ways of managing emotions and behavior.

By involving teachers, administrators, students and parents in creating solutions for their communities we endeavor to "teach the magic of success" so programs become part of self-sustaining cultures.

Contact Dr. Carol Renaud Gaffney,401-345-8950, Carol at DrGaffney.com

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