by Dr. Carol Renaud Gaffney
What I have learned is that most of us have confusion
about how to care for ourselves. We are accused
or accuse ourselves of being selfish, self-centered
and otherwise "wrong" when we pursue our personal
needs and wants. There seems to be no choice between
doing it all for the other person and having it
all for ourselves. Even then what we decide we
want for ourselves is often influenced by the
power of advertising.
Folks, there is a middle ground! There is a
personal balance waiting to be found! Being self-caring
is possible. Self-caring starts with understanding
that we have the right and responsibility to know
ourselves and live according to our own destiny.
Most importantly we can be self-caring and still
be social - we do not have to go the mountains
and become hermits.
My professional experience and personal interests
are broad. These include seminars on time management,
personal success, parenting, stress management,
relaxation, meditation, full healthy holistic
living. Among others, I have studied with Dr.
Herbert Benson at the Mind/Body Institute in Boston.
I have published a book, Relaxation and Meditation
Companion and Dr. Carol Gaffney's Coaching Guide
for Better Parents and Stronger Kids. I have worked
with thousands of clients and seminar participants.
Radio talk programs, book signings and interviews
have allowed me wonderful opportunities to meet
people around the country. For this I am grateful
and awed. The walls around me have disappeared
and I am excited that by using telecommunications
I can consult with anyone at any time.
I love working with people who are ready to
have more of who they are in their life - people
who want to be in life with personal integrity
and genuine caring for themselves and the people
they live and work with. My clients are ready
for change and are willing to listen to who they
are and make the changes necessary to manifest
that person daily. Clients learn they don't have
to wait for fear to leave, they take it with them
as they change. My clients accomplish their goals
more quickly with more focus than they would on
their own or if they were confiding in a friend
or being managed at work.