This self-assessment tool is for you to use in identifying your style. No one exhibits a single style; we normally display combinations of styles, depending on the environment we are in at the time.

Please note that this self-assessment is not a validated instrument but will provide some information about what style is. If you would like an personalized profile you might prefer the computerized report available in the Take an Assessment section.

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DID YOU KNOW?

THE MORE WE SHARE COMMON BELIEFS AND GOALS, THE MORE WILLING WE ARE TO ADAPT OUR BEHAVIORS.

- Dr. Carol Gaffney

THE WHEEL OF LIFE

PARENTING SELF ASSESSMENT TOOL

Using the survey below, think about how you behave when parenting. Mark one answer on each line that is most like you.

D	Risk Taker		C	Risk Avoider
I	Outgoing		S	Reserved
C	Supportive		D	Competitive
S	Time Disciplined		I	Undisciplined with Time
C	Slow-paced		D	Fast-paced
I	Open Body and Hand Movement		S	Controlled Body and Hand Movement
D	Makes Statements		C	Asks Questions
S	Cool		I	Warm
D	Take Charge		C	Go Along
I	More interested in Opinions than Facts		S	More Interested in Facts than Opinions
C	Limited Effort to Take Stand		D	Strong Effort to Take Stand
S	Serious		I	Enthusiastic
D	Take Social Initiative		C	Allow Others to take Initiative
I	Emotional		S	Cautious
Count up how many D answers you circled and then write that number in the space next to the D below. Then add up the I answers, the S answers and the C answers and put them in the space next to their letter. D_______________ I______________ S_______________ C___________
Total of all the D, I, S, C answers ______________ (This should total 14)

Parenting Style Graph

Parent/Child Style Characteristics


PARENT
The Dominant/Directing Parent ("D")
Natural Strengths – Decisive action, goal-oriented
Natural Limitation – impatient, blunt. Pushed to an extreme the dominant parent may become autocratic or dictatorial.

The Influencing/Interacting Parent ("I")
Natural Strengths – fun-loving and optimistic
Natural Limitations – disorganized, not detail oriented. Pushed to an extreme the inerating parent can become too permissive.

The Steady/Stable Parent ("S")
Natural Strengths – easy-going, patient, good istener
Natural Limitations – unwilling to take charge, too passive, Pushed to an extreme, the steady paent can become too accommodating.

The Cautious/Compliant Parent ("C")
Natural Strengths – set high standars, accurate
Natural Limitations – too critical meticulous, strict. Pushed to an extreme the cautious parent can become too perfectionistic.

Moving Ahead


Based on my style, these are my strengths:

This how I would like to use my strengths:

This is what I have to be careful of:

This is what I have learned about my children’s styles:

This is how I can adapt myself to coach them more successfully: