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Catch them doing something right!! Even the most difficult children have moments when they are pure joy.

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 COACHING TIP: ACKNOWLEDGE GOOD BEHAVIOR

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DOING SOMETHING FOR SOMEONE ELSE CAN HELP PEOPLE FEEL HAPPIER.

From Two-Minute Moments, Dr. Gaffney

TWO-MINUTES: MINDFULNESS

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COACHING TIP: ACKNOWLEDGE GOOD BEHAVIOR

by Dr. Carol Renaud Gaffney
Copyright Carol R. Gaffney, Ph.D. 1996


Children will repeat what is paid attention to. So-o-o if you want them to repeat a certain behavior, acknowledge it - somehow let them know that you have noticed. I found myself doing just the opposite of what I wanted to accomplish when my kids were small. I was usually so glad when they were quiet and playing well and totally engaged that I would tiptoe around and not want to disturb the atmosphere and then when they started "getting into it" I would get into it with them. That sure backfired until I realized that I was rewarding them with my attention (Yes, negative attention works just as well as positive - what they can't stand is being ignored) and that this attention was supporting and encouraging the stuff I was hoping to get rid of.

You don't go have to go out of your way or spend money to give attention. A pat on the head, "good job", "attaboy" or "attagirl", a moment here or a moment there spread out over time is all it takes.


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The more you know about your style, the easier it is to figure out what naturally stresses you and what to do to relax.

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TAKE A DEEP BREATH, RELAX
Stress and strain of daily living got you down? Breathe. Relax. Reclaim yourself and your energy – two minutes at a time.

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MEDITATION & THE RELAXATION RESPONSE
Have you been wondering about meditation? Well, it’s easier than you think. You just have to get started. One breath, one focus, two moments.

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